Mentoring in business is the new normal
Enterprise and Wealth CreationI’m halfway through a Global Mentoring Certification Course for Entrepreneurs and it still amazes me that so much value is given away for free in the business landscape today.
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I’m halfway through a Global Mentoring Certification Course for Entrepreneurs and it still amazes me that so much value is given away for free in the business landscape today.
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How does a complete newbie to the startup scene get in the loop? …
I’m now on Day 9 in Bali, working on my laptop by the beach (yay!), getting a feel of what it’s like to work remotely in a paradise location.
…I will share a secret. One of the main drivers of Alaya.PH is for me to find my community/ tribe.
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My personal experience as an educator is limited, but I’m an excellent learner. I’ve always loved to learn. I read the dictionary and encyclopedia for fun as a child, and to this day, I’m like a kid in a toy store when I encounter anything I know nothing about–it becomes something new to learn!
I think the best way to engage a student is to reverse the roles and turn him or her into a teacher. It follows that a teacher walks into a classroom also ready to be a student. It becomes an occasion of learning together.
The best teachers are not necessarily knowledge experts but expert facilitators of learning.
I didn’t study to be a teacher, but teaching seems to be an underlying motif that pops up in my life again and again.
My very first teaching experience was as a substitute teacher for Christian Living in my old high school, St. Pedro Poveda College. A teacher was going on maternity leave and they were hard-pressed for a temp. At that time I was an idealistic fresh college graduate, ready to conquer the world. I had my license as a real estate broker, was actively selling insurance and mutual funds, and thought why not–I could teach teenagers for a few months.
I didn’t know anything about lesson planning, so I taught it the way I would’ve liked to learn it: personal, relatable and simple. We talked about the Old Testament and approached it as Literature: we were telling each other stories. I made the girls talk about themselves a lot, and created a space where dialogue was welcome. At the end of my 2-month stay, my students prepared a send off and one girl stood up and said, “Thank you, Ms. Jo, for making me dream again.” That was a precious thank you that I still carry with me to this day.
Over time I would go on to teach High School Spanish for two years and English as a foreign language to kids in a summer camp in Spain.
One key advice I got early on: just love them. Love your students.
The other key advice I got: when you’re asked a question you can’t answer, just throw the question back and ask, “What do you think?” This was especially useful when we tackled difficult topics like God being vengeful, but it also dispelled the idea of teacher as guru. It’s okay not to have the answers.
I’m not a parent, but I’m a big fan of natural schools and methods that nurture a child’s sense of wonder and reverence for the world.
In 2014, my family took over operations of a private preschool in a prime business district in Manila and I was asked to help out. Together with natural school mentors, I introduced a nursery program with a natural schooling approach and saw firsthand the difference it made to the kids and parents.
We started monthly dialogues for nannies or yayas and another one for parents, and built a culture of cooperation and openness in our school. We made it clear to everyone that we were all partners in educating the children.
Key takeaways from this experience:
If I were to embrace teaching as a vocation, I’d choose adults as my students.
I think it’s with adults that one can freely and fully apply the philosophy of learning together.
It is being comfortable with not (yet) knowing. The goal is still very much to learn, but it’s okay to proceed without having all the answers.
Anyone in a leadership role can benefit from seeing himself/herself as a teacher-mentor. I had a chance to test this out for myself when I led my small team of teachers and staff at the preschool for two years.
Year one was chaos, so we started year two with a different tactic. We spent time building a space of trust and collaboration by focusing our teacher training on biography work and getting to know each other’s strengths and weaknesses. This opened the door for honest and transparent communication, which set the tone for our working relationship. The preschool became a center of learning not just for the kids, but also for the adults that ran it.
Takeaways:
Having worked independently most of my life, I’ve never had to answer to a boss, but I’ve also never had a mentor.
In 2015, I took some units in Education as part of a Program in Education as Transformational Leadership at the Asian Social Institute in Malate, Manila. Here are my takeaways from dialogues we had on alternative education and how it applies to building creative communities:
I was listening to a podcast the other day and they talked about the #refugee #crisis as one of the defining moments of our generation.
Are we going to be remembered for our kindness?
I didn’t go to business school, so much of what I know and feel about money, I learned out there on the streets (and yes, I’m still learning everyday!). I’ve made small and big mistakes and they cost me money, but I regard every one of those stumbles as a learning opportunity. As they say, you know you’re a true entrepreneur once you have failed…and failed…and failed in business.
Fresh out of college, I was invited to sell insurance and I got certified as an Investment Solicitor. I remember sitting in a lecture wide-eyed at the thought of mutual funds and how renting a home instead of buying one can actually be a good business move. Selling Mutual Funds didn’t bring home the bacon, but it planted a critical habit in me: investing in income-earning assets.
Fast-forward to 2010 when I was hungry for a community of financially-conscious people I could relate to (i.e. non-corporate), and I came across Bro. Bo Sanchez. He was a poor missionary who had a financial awakening that aligned with his spiritual vocation. His main mantra that I carry with me to this day: We want you to get rich because we want money in the hands of good people. I attended Wealth Circles with Bro. Bo and first learned of the concept of Masterminding, or hanging out with people you admire and who could be your mentors. To this day, I am part of the Truly Rich Club, which sends monthly updates on which stocks to buy and when to sell them. Monthly investment is less than Php500, truly a steal for the info he shares! If you want to learn more, here’s the invite page to the Truly Rich Club.
In 2014, I made one significantly bad business decision, and over the course of two years it would wipe out my life savings. I was back to square one financially, and I started thinking that I was really not built for business, even if deep down I didn’t believe it was true. I convinced myself that I’m an artist and teacher at heart, and I’m happy to give and share what I can for free.
It was Harv Eker’s book, Secrets of the Millionaire Mind: Mastering the Inner Game of Wealth, that got me to rethink about how I think about money.
I picked it up in April 2017 and devoured it in a day, only to reread it the next day. It came at the right time. It still sits on my desk, reminding me of the importance of stretching and re-stretching ourselves financially. Our financial situation is ultimately a manifestation of who we really are on the inside.
As Harv asked, I did the Wealth Declarations at the end of each chapter in the book, and started to do positive brainwashing on myself.
I visited his website to download the Net Worth Tracking Sheet, which is a table that you fill up every month to monitor changes in your assets vs. liabilities (ideally for the next three months). It was the first time I computed my current Net Worth, and I converted it from Pesos to Dollars–a tactic I’ve adopted to start thinking in global terms.
I also found Harv on facebook and came across the Zero to Multimillionaire class, a 75-minute free webinar where he reveals 6 proven principles that make the difference between getting rich and staying middle class or broke.
It’s one thing to read his words off the page, and it’s another to watch moving, talking pictures of him showing his home, his family. You get a clearer sense of who this man is, who built his wealth from the ground up.
Make no mistake about it, Harv is a go getter. He insists that business is a learnable skill. Wealth Creation is a learnable skill. He is non-academic and shares his streetsmarts in a straightforward language.
I guess when I “met” Harv, I wasn’t just ready to learn, I was hungry for someone to teach me how to do things.
At the end of the free webinar, he pitched the Million Dollar Business Secrets course, a self-paced online program where he shares his streetsmart tactics in building his businesses (he calls them Guerilla Wealth Tactics), his secrets in Negotiations and Marketing, and the ways of thinking that let him come up with Million Dollar Ideas in a snap.
The course wasn’t cheap, but I wanted in on it, so yes, I signed up.
What did I learn over the next four weeks? A lot. I saved his modules on my phone for me to read and listen to when I need a wealthy vibes boost. Here are some of my major takeaways:
Should you sign up for his course? If you are hungry for tried-and-tested tactics in the business arena and want to kaboom your bottomline to new heights, YES, YES, YES. Learn from Harv. The program isn’t cheap but it won’t break the bank either. Learning is always an investment in yourself, and learning about business is a smart investment in your business. Find out more about his Million Dollar Business Secrets and see for yourself.
Read Part 2 of this series: Finding my Mentor and Community.
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Heavy thoughts the past days. ISIS in the PH, lingering terror from violence in many parts, malnutrition, poverty of matter and spirit, climate change. Where are we, really? What’s the way forward for all of us?
What’s brewing? Who’s brewing? How much of what goes on in the world do we really know? Is it better not to know?
I saw back-to-back documentaries on #Scientology and #Anonymous. Manifestations of strong gestures in the world: asleep/awake, individual/collective, self-interest/common good. I choose to believe that despite the felt direction of things heading south today, there is an equal and growing force that pushes upwards-sideways-all-around to offset it.
When I was younger I romanticized the idea of #battle: when is it my turn to fight? What monsters and dragons am I going to fight? I wanted to ride on a wild horse and brandish my sword, scare off invaders and fight for what’s precious to me. I look at the world today and realize we’ve never left the #battlefield. And the biggest fight of our generation is how to hold it all together inside, to remain #true and valiant to ourselves, amidst racism, political abuse, violence, helplessness, threat of extinction, indifference, despair.
#stateoftheworld #collective #lifetask #wherearewe #wherearewegoing #thatotherworld #modernlife #modernslaves #darkness #raincloud #gloomy #balance #areyouawake
Automation will make a lot of jobs defunct. Can that also be a good thing? Time to rethink what living and making a living really mean.
#future #modernlife #automation #ai #whatsnext
Art-making is such an intimate distillation of spirit — going through the motions of creating a work demands concentration, dedication and courage in big and small strokes: Do you have the clarity to know what is true, the courage to choose it and stand by and behind your choices?
Imagine having this discipline so instilled in you that it translates onto all other aspects of your life — business, health, social. Right in the center is a spiritual knowing, a pulsating, moving energy of truth that infects you wholly, and those around you.
Wow.
That’s the abstract part. The grounding is in art. This is the school I want to build. A school of everyday art-making. I call it a school because it’s a place of learning and healing, but it can very well be a business, a salon for dialogue and exchanging ideas, an innovation/invention center. Art is so encompassing, that I use it interchangeably with creativity, science, spiritual. Because it is, first and foremost, problem-solving.
Who will show up?
Spiritual seekers.
Such a tricky word but I still use it because it brings with it two essentials: the asking and the spiritual.
We ask because we don’t know, and we acknowledge that we don’t know. We are moving, we are not attached to one dogma or philosophy, because we know that questions only lead to more questions. We flow.
And this asking is driven by the spirit. It is the spirit that moves and calls us. What is this spirit?
I tried answering this recently:
To be spiritual is [to be] alive, [it is] an activity, an impulse to pursue truth in all things — relationships, business, health. When faced with a fork in the road, the spiritual person takes out the truth radar. He decides not based on emotion or desire, but on truth: what is my truth? What is the truth of the situation? What does it ask of me, of the other, of the world? It is not an easy process to come to a truth. One has to be driven both by results and process… to be patient. To move forward but also to recognize the lull moments. The negative space. And to be there, actively waiting, preparing. Because there is a rhythm to all things. One takes as long as one takes.
To be spiritual is to acknowledge the world and be present to it 100% — in mind, body, heart. One observes and listens, but also makes sure he is equipped to do this task– so he clears the space inside and makes room for the new. All the time. He recognizes the big picture and how we exist in its context. It’s always about context. There is a greater scheme of things, a thread that ties everyone and everything together. I remember a scientific law that puts forward the same idea: Energy is neither created nor destroyed. It is transformed. You can never get rid of what you put out there — be it physical trash or a brilliant idea. It always goes somewhere, moves into a new space, a new vessel. The spiritual works under the same law: There is no real death, no delete button. Everything moves into the other. Everything is connected.
This is what it means to be spiritual: to recognize this connecting movement. Change. Transformation. The spiritual person is open; he feels for the pulse of our time over and over again, so he can respond to it over and over again.
Swap the word “spiritual” above with “creative” or “scientific” and everything still holds true.
– from Spirit and Practical
I was introduced to the world of audiobooks and podcasts very late in the game (February 2017), and I’ve been doing a lot of catch up since then.
I set out this year with very focused goals on increasing productivity and wealth creation. All these materials are helping me with these goals, and if you’re journeying on a similar path, I hope they help you too.
Here’s a rundown of what I’ve been reading and listening to for productivity and focus:
I credit 100% of my momentum in 2017 to Lynn Jericho, who guided me with Inner Christmas meditations throughout the 12 Holy Nights of 2016. During these 12 nights after Christmas, the spiritual world and the physical world are closest to each other, giving anyone who puts in the inner work a powerful window to connect with his or her higher self. These nightly invitations to sit in silence gave me the clarity to make space within myself to listen to what needed to come out and come in.
Lynn has ongoing programs throughout the year, which you can find on Imagine Self.
Benjamin Hardy and his Morning Routines gave me simple and doable action steps to do every single day. Ben is a PhD student on Organizational Psychology and he writes essays on productivity and self-improvement. When he sent out an invitation to a year-long course called Life By Design: How to Live Life According to Your Values Every Single Day, I didn’t even hesitate to join. Maybe I’m an easy sell; maybe it was right timing. I have been happy with the weekly videos and readings Ben sends out, and they’ve been a great help in sustaining the momentum I started the year with. He keeps them short and on point, so they’re very manageable time-wise. He also loves quotes and is generous with his sources. Most of the books listed below are from his recommendation list. Read Ben’s works here.
I’ve finished more books in the past two months than I have in the past year thanks to audiobooks. They’re easy companions while I do menial tasks like prepare breakfast and drive through traffic, and they help sharpen my listening and concentration skills (especially useful if you’re easily distracted like me!).
Essentialism was the first audiobook I got on Audible, which meant I got to listen to it for free. It literally jumpstarted me on editing my life by saying no to what mattered less so I could say yes to what mattered more.
I’ve gone through it in full twice and still listen to it from time to time. Greg McKeown reads it himself and his smooth voice helps to keep calm in Manila traffic.
My favorite takeway from the book? If it’s not a hell yes, it’s a no.
Napoleon Hill’s Outwitting the Devil feels like a primer on morality, but it is packed with simple, hard-hitting jabs. I grew up Catholic and was bombarded with literature on sin and heaven and hell, but Hill presents the Devil without the religious weight.
Written in 1938 but released to the public only in 2011, it is literally a conversation between Hill and the Devil. Perfect as an audiobook.
A great complement to Essentialism, because what do you do once you achieve clarity of mind? You don’t leave it drifting.
Dale Carnegie’s How to Win Friends and Influence People is a classic book on good manners and just over-all niceness. I’ve been in sales for nearly two decades, and I still learned something new from listening to this.
Why is good behavior a critical component of productivity? We perform at our highest level when we are in perfect alignment in thoughts, feelings, actions. How we treat people around us is a reflection of our highest ideals, and this book reminds us ever so gently of the basics of being a good person.
Excellent narration by Andrew McMillan too. Very soothing to the ears and true to its premise: it will win you over.
To be honest when I first opened the audiobook for The Power of Habit, I got put off by how long it was: 10 friggin’ hours!
I went through them 30 minutes at a time, and finally finished the book last week, yay.
Charles Duhigg breaks down a habit into its basic parts: cue, routine, and reward, and gives many examples of figuring out which is which and how to make deliberate changes in the habit loop.
Very important skill if we want to be more productive and focused everyday.
Whenever I finished an audiobook, I’d look for something to listen to that didn’t demand so much commitment (leaving a book hanging felt wrong to me), so I turned to podcasts.
I hope my list of audiobooks and podcasts helps you start your own listening habits! Also check out my wealth creation journey where I list the books and courses that are helping me get to where I want to go financially.
Do you have other books or shows to recommend? Share them in the comments below!
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